Have you ever wondered why your significant other is close to you one minute and the next is giving you the cold shoulder? Or why it is that you tend to gravitate toward a certain type of person when dating? Or how about, will I ever find the “right” one?

I stumbled upon Attached. The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love simply by accident. I have an agreement with myself that I will read at least one non-fiction book every month. I had some extra credits I needed to use with Audible.com and Attached. jumped right out at me. I think for many of us, if we’re not in a relationship, we want to be dating, but then if we are, we have all of these conflicting doubts and feelings that arise. I listened to the audiobook every chance I got, and then I ordered the hardbound copy!

With the audio version, Walter Dixon is the narrator and does a fine job with Attached. His diction and timing is spot on. I almost felt like I was on a therapist’s couch as Mr. Dixon read to me from Attached. My only complaint was that I did not have the tests and questions in front of me to ponder upon – hence my order for the hardbound version.

I have read the book again after listening to it in its entirety and have found so many nuggets of advice that I do not want to forget ~ things applicable to both romantic relationships and the family and friends relationships. For example, there are three main types of attachment styles in adults: anxious, avoidant and secure. According to Attached. the basic descriptions for each attachment style is that:

• Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner’s ability to love them back.
• Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
• Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

Attached is one of those rare finds that one can count on using as a resource for many years and through the differing relationships. Although it is written by adolescent psychiatrist and neuroscientist, Amir Levine, M.D. and social-organizational psychologist, Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A., Attached does not read like a science journal or doctorate dissertation. It is accessible to the everyday reader and anyone who wants to improve upon or know more about his or her relationships and attachment style.